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		<title>Making Simple &amp; Easy Choices to Creating a Secure Password</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[There is no such thing as a perfect password. A committed hacker can crack any password, given enough time and the right &#8220;dictionary&#8221; or &#8220;brute force&#8221; tools. But just like breaking into a car, if the protection is strong enough, the hacker will become discouraged and pursue an easier target. 1. Start With a Base [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p>There is no such thing as a perfect password. A committed hacker can crack any password, given enough time and the right &#8220;dictionary&#8221; or &#8220;brute force&#8221; tools. But just like breaking into a car, if the protection is strong enough, the hacker will become discouraged and pursue an easier target.</p>
<p>1. Start With a Base Word Phrase.</p>
<p>A good password starts with a base word phrase. Choose a memorable catchphrase, quotation, or easy-to-remember saying, and take the first letter from each word. Choose a phrase that is memorable to you.</p>
<p>Examples of some base word phrases:</p>
<p>    * Can&#8217;t See the Forest Through the Trees:  cstfttt<br />
    * Put Up or Shut Up:  puosu<br />
    * If the Shoe Fits, Wear It:  itsfwi<br />
    * You Can Lead a Horse to Water:  yclahtw<br />
    * The Last Mile Is Always Uphill: tlmiau<br />
    * I Think, Therefore I Am:  ittia<br />
    * Oh Say Can You See:  oscys<br />
    * My Dog Quinnie Loves Mystery Suprises: mdqlms</p>
<p>Suggestion: try this <a href="http://netforbeginners.about.com/od/internetglossary/a/glossary-of-internet-jargon-and-abbreviations.htm" target="_blank">list of acronym phrases</a> you could use for inspiration</p>
<p>http://netforbeginners.about.com/od/internetglossary/a/glossary-of-internet-jargon-and-abbreviations.htm</p>
<p>Suggestion: try this list of famous quotations and catchphrases</p>
<p>http://forum.digital-digest.com/f41/famous-cliches-quotes-1-liners-etc-86123.html</p>
<p>2. Lengthen the Phrase</p>
<p>Passwords start to become strong at 6 characters long. While a long password can be annoying to type, a long password really helps to slow down brute force hacker attacks.</p>
<p>Tip: lengthen your password by adding the website name or computer software name to the base phrase. For example:</p>
<p>    * cstftttGmail<br />
    * puosuVista<br />
    * itsfwiEpinions<br />
    * yclahtwWin7<br />
    * tlmiauMac<br />
    * ittiaAboutdotcom<br />
    * oscysPayPal<br />
    * mdqlmsEbay</p>
<p>Tech tip: passwords that are 15 characters and more are extremely strong, because Microsoft Windows will not store scrambled passwords in hidden files once they are 15 characters or longer. </p>
<p>3. Scramble the Phrase</p>
<p>Scrambling does not necessarily mean rearranging the letters. Rather, scrambling your password can effectively be achieved by swapping one or more of the password letters with a non-alphabetic character, and then purposely including uppercase and lowercase letters within the password. Scrambling creatively uses the shift key, punctuation marks, the @ or % symbols, and even semi-colons and periods. Using numbers as substitutes for letters is another strong scrambling technique.</p>
<p>Examples of scrambling:</p>
<p>    * CstftttGm@il<br />
    * Puo5uVista<br />
    * 1tsfwiEpinions<br />
    * Ycl@htwWin7<br />
    * 7lmiauMac<br />
    * ittiaAboutdotcom<br />
    * o5cysPayPal<br />
    * mdqlm?!Ebay</p>
<p>4. Lastly: Rotate/Change Your Password Regularly</p>
<p>At work, your network people will require you to change your password every several days. At home, you should rotate your passwords as a matter of good computer hygiene. If you are using different passwords for different websites, rotate portions of your passwords every few weeks. Note that rotating parts of the password, not the entire passwords, will help deter hackers from stealing your phrases. If you can memorize three or more passwords at the same time, then you are in good shape to resist brute force hacker attacks.</p>
<p>Examples:</p>
<p>    * mdqlm?!Gmail<br />
    * CstftttVista<br />
    * Puo5uEpinions<br />
    * 1tsfwiWin7<br />
    * Ycl@htwMac<br />
    * 7lmiauAboutdotcom<br />
    * ittiaPayPal<br />
    * o5cysEBay</p>
<p>5. Advanced Password Tips</p>
<p>There are several other resources for building strong passwords.</p>
<p>    * See more samples of strong passwords here.</p>
<p>http://netforbeginners.about.com/od/lockdownyourpc/a/examples_of_good_passwords.htm</p>
<p>    * See other personal password suggestions.</p>
<p>http://netforbeginners.about.com/u/ua/lockdownyourpc/user_suggestions_creating_strong_passwords.htm</p>
<p>    * A FREE online password generator.</p>
<p>http://javascript.about.com/library/blpasswd.htm</p>
<p>    * There are multiple drag-and-drop software tools that help you bypass hacker keylogger software.</p>
<p>Free tools like:</p>
<p>KeyWallet Password Manager</p>
<p>http://www.keywallet.com/kw_download.php?id=4</p>
<p>KeePass &#8211; a free open source password manager, which helps you to manage your passwords in a secure way.</p>
<p>http://keepass.info/download.html</p>
<p>Roboform </p>
<p>http://www.roboform.com/dist/RoboForm-Setup.exe</p>
<p>work well because you can avoiding typing your passwords entirely, and just let your mouse do the data entry.</p>
<p>    * You can also employ a digital vault like Password Safe. This kind of software creates personal &#8220;lockers&#8221; to keep all your passwords locked under a master password.</p>
<p>http://sourceforge.net/projects/passwordsafe/files/passwordsafe/3.26/pwsafe-3.26.exe/download</p>
<p>    * Or try phrasing tips for password generation.</p>
<p>http://antivirus.about.com/od/securitytips/a/passwords.htm</p>
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		<title>How to Avoid the Top 10 Resume Mistakes</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Aug 2010 05:06:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[1. Typos and Grammatical Errors Your resume needs to be grammatically perfect. If it isn’t, employers will read between the lines and draw not-so-flattering conclusions about you, like: &#8220;This person can’t write,&#8221; or &#8220;This person obviously doesn’t care.&#8221; 2. Lack of Specifics Employers need to understand what you’ve done and accomplished. For example: - Worked [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p><a href="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/resume.jpg"><img src="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/resume.jpg" alt="" title="resume" width="128" height="96" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-183" /></a><strong>1. Typos and Grammatical Errors</strong><br />
Your resume needs to be grammatically perfect. If it isn’t, employers will read between the lines and draw not-so-flattering conclusions about you, like: &#8220;This person can’t write,&#8221; or &#8220;This person obviously doesn’t care.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>2. Lack of Specifics</strong><br />
Employers need to understand what you’ve done and accomplished. For example:</p>
<p>-  Worked with employees in a restaurant setting.<br />
-  Recruited, hired, trained and supervised more than 20 employees in a restaurant with $2 million in annual sales. </p>
<p>Both of these phrases could describe the same person, but clearly the second one’s details and specifics will more likely grab an employer’s attention.</p>
<p><strong>3. Attempting One Size Fits All</strong><br />
Whenever you try to develop a one-size-fits-all resume to send to all employers, you almost always end up with something employers will toss in the recycle bin. Employers want you to write a resume specifically for them. They expect you to clearly show how and why you fit the position in a specific organization.</p>
<p><strong>4. Highlighting Duties Instead of Accomplishments</strong><br />
It’s easy to slip into a mode where you simply start listing job duties on your resume. For example:</p>
<p>-  Attended group meetings and recorded minutes.<br />
-  Worked with children in a day-care setting.<br />
-  Updated departmental files. </p>
<p>Employers, however, don’t care so much about what you’ve done as what you’ve accomplished in your various activities. They’re looking for statements more like these:</p>
<p>-  Used laptop computer to record weekly meeting minutes and compiled them in a Microsoft Word-based file for future organizational reference.<br />
-  Developed three daily activities for preschool-age children and prepared them for a 10-minute holiday program performance.<br />
-  Reorganized 10 years’ worth of unwieldy files, making them easily accessible to department members. </p>
<p><strong>5. Too Long or Cutting Things Too Short</strong><br />
Despite what you may read or hear, there are no real rules governing the length of your resume. Why? Because human beings, who have different preferences and expectations where resumes are concerned, will be reading it.</p>
<p>That doesn’t mean you should start sending out five-page resumes, of course. Generally speaking, you usually need to limit yourself to a maximum of two pages. But don’t feel you have to use two pages if one will do. Conversely, don’t cut the meat out of your resume simply to make it conform to an arbitrary one-page standard.</p>
<p><strong>6. Bad Objective</strong><br />
Employers do read your resume’s objective statement, but too often they plow through vague pufferies like, &#8220;Seeking a challenging position that offers professional growth.&#8221; Give employers something specific and, more importantly, something that focuses on their needs as well as your own. Example: &#8220;A challenging entry-level marketing position that allows me to contribute my skills and experience in fund-raising for nonprofits.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>7. No Action Verbs</strong><br />
Avoid using phrases like &#8220;responsible for.&#8221; Instead, use action verbs: &#8220;Resolved user questions as part of an IT help desk serving 4,000 students and staff.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>8. Leaving Off Important Information</strong><br />
You may be tempted, for example, to eliminate mention of the jobs you’ve taken to earn extra money for school. Typically, however, the soft skills you’ve gained from these experiences (e.g., work ethic, time management) are more important to employers than you might think.</p>
<p><strong>9. Visually Too Busy</strong><br />
If your resume is wall-to-wall text featuring five different fonts, it will most likely give the employer a headache. So show your resume to several other people before sending it out. Do they find it visually attractive? If what you have is hard on the eyes, revise.</p>
<p><strong>10. Incorrect Contact Information</strong><br />
I once worked with someone whose resume seemed incredibly strong, but he wasn’t getting any bites from employers. So one day, I asked him if the phone number he’d listed on his resume was correct. It wasn’t. Once he changed it, he started getting the calls he’d been expecting.</p>
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		<title>How Many Hours of Sleep Should an Adult Get?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sleep plays an important role in your mental and physical health. Sleeping allows your body to rest and your brain to recharge after each day. The number of hours of sleep you need depends on your age and can also vary from person to person, even within a particular age group. According to the Mayo [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p><a href="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/sleep.jpg"><img src="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/sleep-150x150.jpg" alt="" title="sleep" width="150" height="150" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-179" /></a>Sleep plays an important role in your mental and physical health. Sleeping allows your body to rest and your brain to recharge after each day. The number of hours of sleep you need depends on your age and can also vary from person to person, even within a particular age group.</p>
<p>According to the Mayo Clinic, adults should get seven to eight hours of sleep a night. The Cleveland Clinic suggests that adults should get at least seven and a half hours of sleep a night and not much more than eight hours a night. Though older adults might sleep more lightly than they did as younger adults, this change does not mean that they need less sleep. In fact, the Mayo Clinic states that adults who sleep about seven hours a night have lower mortality rates than those who sleep much more or much less.</p>
<p>Too much sleep can be harmful, as well as too little sleep. According to the Mayo Clinic, oversleeping on a regular basis can lead to depression, weight gain and a variety of other health problems.</p>
<p>According to the Mayo Clinic, people who consistently get enough sleep have a stronger immune system and are less likely to get sick if exposed to a virus. When you sleep, your body produces proteins called cytokines. These proteins help fight infections, so if you have higher levels, you are better able to fight infections. You may avoid getting sick altogether, or if you do get sick, you can recover more quickly. You will also have more mental and physical energy and a better memory.</p>
<p>Sleep quality matters just as much as sleep duration. Sleep apnea, waking up frequently and other sleep problems might prevent you from sleeping deeply enough and reaping the benefits of healthy sleep. If you cannot fall asleep within 15 or 20 minutes or if you wake up in the night and cannot fall back to sleep within that time, you should leave the room and do something relaxing, according to the Cleveland Clinic. Only try to fall asleep when you feel tired enough. Avoiding daytime naps and performing regular daily exercise can also help you sleep more deeply.</p>
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		<title>How to Be a Couch Potato</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Who wants to be a couch potato? Well, as a matter of fact, many people do, and for understandable reasons. Maybe it&#8217;s your one day off, maybe you just got back from practice, or school. Maybe you&#8217;re just tired. Whatever the reason, you can be a prime example of a couch potato if you read [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p><a href="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/cp2.gif"><img src="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/cp2-150x150.gif" alt="" title="cp2" width="150" height="150" class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-175" /></a>Who wants to be a couch potato? Well, as a matter of fact, many people do, and for understandable reasons. Maybe it&#8217;s your one day off, maybe you just got back from practice, or school. Maybe you&#8217;re just tired. Whatever the reason, you can be a prime example of a couch potato if you read on. </p>
<p>1. <strong>Sit down in a comfy place such as a reclining chair, beanbag, or preferably, (you knew it was coming) a couch (just don&#8217;t sit on a potato!).</strong> Make it even more comfortable than it already is, but with minimal effort, of course!</p>
<p>2. <strong>Make sure you have everything you need. </strong>Such as snacks (junk food is great for being a couch potato), drinks, magazines, comic books (if you&#8217;re into that stuff), and most importantly, a television and remote(s).</p>
<p>3. <strong>Do something that doesn&#8217;t involve getting up.</strong> Flip through TV channels, or just eat.</p>
<p>4. <strong>Now just watch TV, because that&#8217;s pretty much all a couch potato does!</strong> Flip through the channels. Give each show about 10 seconds to entertain you, and if it doesn&#8217;t, just move onto the next one. If it does, watch until the show ends, or until you lose interest.</p>
<p>5. <strong>Another thing couch potatoes are famous for is playing video games.</strong> Go rent one that looks good or play one you already own! Please note that some Wii games involve some movement which could hinder your status as a couch potato.</p>
<p>6. <strong>Have others do things for you, like get you more food, or rent a movie for you, etc</strong>. But be sure to be nice about it, because if they refuse, you&#8217;ll most likely have to do it yourself.</p>
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		<title>What is the Correct Way of Eating Fruits?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[We all think eating fruits means just buying fruits, cutting and just popping them into our mouth. It&#8217;s not as easy as you think. It&#8217;s important to know how and when to eat. What is the correct way of eating fruits? It means not eating fruits after your meals! Fruits should be eaten on an [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p><img alt="" src="http://www.brethollander.me/images/fruit.jpg" title="Fruits" class="alignleft" width="193" height="193" />We all think eating fruits means just buying fruits, cutting and just popping them into our mouth. It&#8217;s not as easy as you think. It&#8217;s important to know how and when to eat. </p>
<p>What is the correct way of eating fruits?</p>
<p>It means not eating fruits after your meals! Fruits should be eaten on an empty stomach.</p>
<p>If you eat fruit like that, it will play a major role to detoxify your system, supplying you with a great deal of energy for weight loss and other life activities. </p>
<p>Fruit is the most important food. Let&#8217;s say you eat two slices of bread and then a slice of fruit. The slice of fruit is ready to go straight through the stomach into the intestines, but it is prevented from doing so. </p>
<p>In the meantime the whole meal rots and ferments and turns to acid. The minute the fruit comes into contact with the food in the stomach and digestive juices, the entire mass of food begins to spoil. </p>
<p>Eat your fruits on an empty stomach or before your meals. You have heard people complaining &#8211; every time I eat watermelon I burp, when I eat durian my stomach bloats up, when I eat a banana I feel like running to the toilet, etc. Actually all this will not arise if you eat the fruit on an empty stomach. The fruit mixes with the putrefying other food and produces gas and hence you will bloat! </p>
<p>Graying hair, balding, nervous outburst, and dark circles under the eyes all these will not happen if you take fruits on an empty stomach. </p>
<p>There is no such thing as some fruits, like orange and lemon are acidic, because all fruits become alkaline in our body. If you have mastered the correct way of eating fruits, you have the Secret of beauty, longevity, health, energy, happiness and normal weight. </p>
<p>When you need to drink fruit juice &#8211; drink only fresh fruit juice, not from the cans. Don&#8217;t even drink juice that has been heated up. Don&#8217;t eat cooked fruits because you don&#8217;t get the nutrients at all. You only get to taste. Cooking destroys all the vitamins. </p>
<p>But eating a whole fruit is better than drinking the juice. If you should drink the juice, drink it mouthful by mouthful slowly, because you must let it mix with your saliva before swallowing it. You can go on a 3-day fruit fast to cleanse your body. Just eat fruits and drink fruit juice throughout the 3 days and you will be surprised when your friends tell you how radiant you look! </p>
<p>KIWI: Tiny but mighty. This is a good source of potassium, magnesium, vitamin E and fiber. Its vitamin C content is twice that of an orange. </p>
<p>APPLE: An apple a day keeps the doctor away although an apple has low vitamin C content, it has antioxidants and flavonoids which enhances the activity of vitamin C thereby helping to lower the risks of colon cancer, heart attack and stroke. </p>
<p>STRAWBERRY: Protective Fruit. Strawberries have the highest total antioxidant power among major fruits and protect the body from cancer-causing, blood vessel-clogging free radicals. </p>
<p>ORANGE: Sweetest medicine. Taking 2-4 oranges a day may help keep colds away, lower cholesterol, prevent and dissolve kidney stones as well as lessens the risk of colon cancer. </p>
<p>WATERMELON: Coolest thirst quencher. Composed of 92% water, it is also packed with a giant dose of glutathione, which helps boost our immune system. They are also a key source of lycopene &#8211; the cancer fighting oxidant. Other nutrients found in watermelon are vitamin C and potassium. </p>
<p>GUAVA and PAPAYA: Top awards for vitamin C. They are the clear winners for their high vitamin C content. Guava is also rich in fiber, which helps prevent constipation. Papaya is rich in carotene; this is good for your eyes. </p>
<p>Drinking cold water after a meal is highly discouraged. It’s nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this &#8216;sludge&#8217; reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal. </p>
<p>A serious note about heart attacks People should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting. Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line. You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack. Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms. Sixty percent of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Be careful and be aware. The more you know the better chance you could survive.</p>
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		<title>What is Your Self-Esteem?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Self-esteem is shaped by your relationships, your experiences and your thoughts. Healthy self-esteem promotes mental well-being, assertiveness, resilience and more. Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you honestly feel about yourself with all of your successes, abilities, flaws and limits. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p><img src="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/self-esteem-300x177.jpg" alt="self-esteem" title="self-esteem" width="300" height="177" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-75" />Self-esteem is shaped by your relationships, your experiences and your thoughts. Healthy self-esteem promotes mental well-being, assertiveness, resilience and more.</p>
<p>Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself — how you honestly feel about yourself with all of your successes, abilities, flaws and limits. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving others&#8217; respect. When you have low self-esteem, on the other hand, you put little value on your opinions and ideas, and you constantly worry that you aren&#8217;t &#8220;good enough.&#8221;</p>
<p>Although the benefits of building healthy self-esteem are often discussed for children, there are plenty of adults who need to work on their self-esteem. Learn how to tell if your self-esteem needs a boost — and the benefits of developing healthy self-esteem.<br />
Factors that shape and influence self-esteem</p>
<p>Self-esteem starts forming early in life. Factors that can influence self-esteem include:</p>
<p>    * Other peoples&#8217; reactions to you<br />
    * Your own thoughts and perceptions<br />
    * School and extracurricular experiences<br />
    * Work experiences<br />
    * Illness, disability or injury<br />
    * Culture<br />
    * Religion<br />
    * Role and status in society</p>
<p>Relationships with those close to you — parents, siblings, peers, teachers and other important adults — are especially powerful. Many beliefs you hold about yourself today reflect messages you&#8217;ve received from these people over time. If your close relationships are good and you receive generally positive feedback, you&#8217;re more likely to see yourself as worthwhile. However, if you receive mostly negative feedback and are often criticized, teased or devalued by others, you&#8217;re more likely to struggle with poor self-esteem.</p>
<p>But your own thoughts have perhaps the biggest impact on self-esteem — and they are one aspect of self-esteem that you can control. With techniques such as cognitive behavior training, you can learn to reframe negative thinking and self-talk and to correct misperceptions that lead you to focus on your weaknesses or flaws.</p>
<p><strong>The ranges of self-esteem</strong></p>
<p>Self-esteem ranges from very positive to very negative. Neither extreme is healthy. Although self-esteem fluctuates over time, depending on your circumstances, it generally stays in a range that reflects how you feel about yourself overall.</p>
<p>    * Overly high self-esteem. If you regard yourself more highly than others do, you may have an unrealistically positive view of yourself. When you have an inflated sense of self-esteem, you often feel superior to those around you. Such feelings can lead you to become arrogant or self-indulgent and believe that you deserve special privileges.<br />
    * Low self-esteem. When you have low or negative self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and ideas. You focus on your perceived weaknesses and faults and give scant credit to your skills and assets. You believe that others are better than you.<br />
    * Healthy self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem lies between these two extremes. It means you have a balanced, accurate view of yourself. For instance, you have a good opinion of your abilities but recognize your flaws. When you understand your own worth, you invite the respect of others.</p>
<p><strong>Common characteristics of low self-esteem</strong></p>
<p>It&#8217;s normal to go through times when you feel down about yourself. Everyone has times when they feel insecure about their abilities, accomplishments or appearance. However, when you feel bad about yourself in many areas of your life — and these feelings become long-standing — your self-esteem can suffer. Low self-esteem affects not only the way you feel but also the way you behave and interact with others.</p>
<p>How do you know if you think too little of yourself? You may have some of these characteristics of low self-esteem:</p>
<p>    * Frequent negative self-talk, such as, &#8220;I&#8217;m a failure,&#8221; or &#8220;I&#8217;ll never amount to anything.&#8221;<br />
    * Preoccupation with your flaws and weaknesses.<br />
    * Need for constant reassurance from others, which doesn&#8217;t relieve your insecurity.<br />
    * Inability to accept compliments or positive feedback.<br />
    * Fear of failure, which holds you back from succeeding at work or school.<br />
    * Difficulty handling stressful situations.</p>
<p><strong>Benefits of healthy self-esteem</strong></p>
<p>When you value yourself and have good self-esteem, you feel secure and worthwhile and have generally positive relationships with others. You feel confident about your abilities and tend to do well at school or work. You&#8217;re also open to learning and feedback, which can help you acquire and master new skills.</p>
<p><strong>With healthy self-esteem you are:</strong></p>
<p>    * Less prone to feelings such as hopelessness, worthlessness, guilt and shame.<br />
    * Assertive in expressing your needs and opinions.<br />
    * Confident in your ability to make decisions.<br />
    * Able to form secure and honest relationships — and less likely to stay in unhealthy ones.<br />
    * Realistic in your expectations and less likely to be overcritical of yourself and others.<br />
    * More resilient and able to weather stress and setbacks.<br />
    * Less likely to develop mental health conditions, such as eating disorders, addictions, depression and anxiety.</p>
<p>Because self-esteem affects every facet of your life, having a healthy, realistic view of yourself is important. Remember, it&#8217;s not about blowing your own horn. It&#8217;s about learning to like and respect yourself, faults and all.</p>
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		<title>What is Boredom?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Boredom is the neediness for something &#8220;exciting&#8221; to happen. It&#8217;s the craving for drama. It&#8217;s the attachment/addiction to experiencing physical sensations. It&#8217;s the desire to satisfy the physical senses. It&#8217;s the wantingness to satisfy animal urges, rather than spiritual peace. It&#8217;s the choosing of a temporary instant gratification, over long term well-being. Boredom is the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p><img src="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/boredom.jpg" alt="boredom" title="boredom" width="250" height="364" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-70" />Boredom is the neediness for something &#8220;exciting&#8221; to happen. It&#8217;s the craving for drama. It&#8217;s the attachment/addiction to experiencing physical sensations. It&#8217;s the desire to satisfy the physical senses. It&#8217;s the wantingness to satisfy animal urges, rather than spiritual peace. It&#8217;s the choosing of a temporary instant gratification, over long term well-being. Boredom is the choosing of pleasure over peace, because peace is perceived as being &#8220;boring&#8221;. It&#8217;s the urge to DO something in hopes of finding happiness, instead of simply BEING that something (happiness).</p>
<p>Boredom is the inability to accept life for what it is, as it is in this very moment. Boredom is the inability to see the beauty of the world, as it is right now. It&#8217;s the unwillingness to see the perfection of what&#8217;s right in front of our faces. It&#8217;s the faulty judgemental egoic opinion that something is &#8220;wrong&#8221; with existence. Boredom is the absence of acceptance, and the rejection of contentness. It&#8217;s the neediness to change the situation because the mind refuses to be happy with what is. Boredom is the refusal of happiness in this very moment. When the mind is needy, there always has to be something more. With boredom, things always have to be different than how they already are. Boredom is intolerance and discrimination. Boredom is the absence of love.</p>
<p>Boredom is the anticipation of what could be, but isn&#8217;t. It&#8217;s the looking forward to what doesn&#8217;t exist in reality. It&#8217;s the indulgence in an illusionary dream of imagination, and the escaping of reality.</p>
<p>Boredom is a form of anxiety and stress. Boredom determines many of our erroneous actions, and is therefore the source of much of our suffering. Boredom is a psychological problem that is best to be let go of. When one lets boredom take control of them, one is never satisfied (happy/content).</p>
<p>Boredom is the false notion that happiness lies outside oneself. It&#8217;s born from the unawareness that happiness can simply be chosen at all moments of life, despite life&#8217;s circumstances. Boredom happens because of ignorance and unconsciousness. Boredom is the result of a lack of truth. Boredom is a negativity. Boredom creates problems.</p>
<p>Boredom is the identification with the autonomous cellular neural functioning/activities/thinkingness of the physical brain, instead of the identification with the formless spiritual awareness that silently observes the mind&#8217;s automatic functioning/thinking from an &#8220;outside&#8221; perspective.</p>
<p>Boredom is the worry that something is being missed out on. It&#8217;s the fear of doing nothing. It&#8217;s the fear of silence, or more specifically, the fear of the silence of your own mind. It&#8217;s the fear that one&#8217;s life will come to an end if one stops thinking. It&#8217;s the fear that the &#8220;me&#8221;, &#8220;myself&#8221;, and &#8220;I&#8221; might die. Boredom is the fear of death because the automatic thinkingness of the mind is falsely identified as being &#8220;me&#8221;.</p>
<p>When one takes control of the mind (lets it go), instead of being controlled by it, boredom becomes non-existent, and happiness/joy/contentness/peace then becomes permanent, instead of just temporary. When one&#8217;s happiness is no longer limited to only when experiencing external phenomena, one realizes that the true source of happiness is, and always has been, found and experienced within, as a choice. Happiness is an inner choice, right here, right now, and always, no matter what life&#8217;s external happenings are. The outer becomes completely irrelevant as one becomes immersed in this permanent inwardly experienced happiness/joy/bliss/ecstasy. And this profoundly ineffable bliss/ecstasy/peace is far beyond any physical sensation that one could possibly imagine (and yes, that includes sex). All that one has to do is refuse the mind&#8217;s activities, and choose to be it.</p>
<p>Boredom can&#8217;t be quenched. It can only be let go of.</p>
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		<title>What is Moderate Depression?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[The symptoms of moderate depression are similar to those of mild depression, but are worse and are present most of the time. You can pull yourself together for short periods only: - You are sad - You lack energy - You show less of an interest in the world around you. Your thoughts center on: [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p><img src="http://brethollander.me/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/pills.jpg" alt="Pills, pills, pills - a doctor&#039;s savage secret" title="Pills, pills, pills - a doctor&#039;s savage secret" width="195" height="280" class="alignleft size-full wp-image-65" />The symptoms of moderate depression are similar to those of mild depression, but are worse and are present most of the time. You can pull yourself together for short periods only:</p>
<p>-  You are sad<br />
-  You lack energy<br />
-  You show less of an interest in the world around you.</p>
<p>Your thoughts center on:</p>
<p>-  Feelings of guilt<br />
-  Low self-esteem</p>
<p>The people around you find it hard to understand why you feel guilty. You are also less happy with people or things in general.</p>
<p>You have little interest in your family or work. Your ability to concentrate is significantly impaired. You stop watching movies and your favourite TV programs, reading newspapers or books. You find it hard to concentrate.</p>
<p>Tiny everyday decisions may feel insurmountable. It can be hard to decide what you should buy for dinner. You have no desire to go out on the town or entertain guests.</p>
<p>If you suffer from moderate depression, you will normally suffer from mood changes during the day. This means that you may be miserable in the morning but better towards the evening.</p>
<p>Your sleep is disturbed. You don&#8217;t feel rested. You may find it easy to fall asleep, but wake up after a few hours and can&#8217;t drift off again. Many people find lying awake during the early hours very stressful. Here you are all alone with your sad thoughts.</p>
<p>You may find your appetite reduces during a bout of moderate depression. It&#8217;s not unusual to lose 5-10% of your normal weight.</p>
<p>You generally lose your sex drive &#8211; you may need closeness and contact but find it difficult. Your lack of sex drive may trigger more feelings of guilt.</p>
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		<title>What is the Best Surgery for Morbid Obesity?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Lap Band, Gastric Bypass, Liquid Protein, South Beach Diet - what is the best bariatric weight-loss solution that will keep the weight off permanently, even if you have an insatiable appetite, and live by the mantra of "I live to eat"!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- Start Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><!-- End Shareaholic LikeButtonSetTop Automatic --><p><img alt="" src="http://www.brethollander.me/images/DSdrawing.jpg" title="Duodenal Switch" class="alignleft" width="339" height="480" />Lap Band, Gastric Bypass, Liquid Protein, South Beach Diet &#8211; what is the best bariatric weight-loss solution that will keep the weight off permanently, even if you have an insatiable appetite, and live by the mantra of &#8220;I live to eat&#8221;!</p>
<p>All weight loss surgeries work by making the stomach smaller (restrictive procedures) and/or creating changes in the digestive tract which do not permit the body to absorb all of the fats in the food you eat (called malabsorptive procedures).The Duodenal Switch (DS) is a combination restrictive and malabsorptive surgery. The stomach is made smaller and the intestines are rerouted so that you can&#8217;t absorb all the food you eat. Because of this malabsorption it&#8217;s essential that you monitor your vitamin levels and take your prescribed vitamins for the rest of your life. It&#8217;s also the malabsorption that can cause diarrhea if you eat too much fat. The undigested fat in your colon can cause gas problems, but they usually improve in the first 6 months after surgery.</p>
<p>The DS is similar to the Roux en-Y Gastric Bypass (RNY) with respect to the intestinal bypass (malabsorptive) portion of the procedure. The lower part of this surgery is basically the same as a distal RNY. RNY&#8217;s are done either proximal (with a shorter length of the intestines bypassed) or distal (with more of the intestines bypassed). Studies have shown that people who have distal bypasses have greater success at losing large amounts of weight and keeping it off.</p>
<p>The RNY and DS are very different with respect to what is done at the top end of the surgery &#8212; the portion involving the stomach (the restrictive aspect of the surgery). The RNY doctors do a variety of things to make the stomach smaller &#8212; most create “pouches” or transect (divide) the stomach. They then reroute the intestines by connecting them directly to the new stomach pouch, bypassing the duodenum. In the RNY/pouch procedures, the pyloric valve (which regulates the emptying of stomach contents into the duodenum) is bypassed and therefore doesn&#8217;t function after surgery.</p>
<p>In the DS procedure, the surgeon creates a smaller stomach by removing about 75% of the stomach (which is called a partial gastrectomy). The top part of the gastric bypass is connected below the duodenum which keeps the upper part of the digestive process the same as before surgery (except that your stomach is smaller). Your pyloric valve continues to regulate the emptying of the stomach contents into the duodenum and all of the hormones and secretions that occur in the duodenum continue after surgery.</p>
<p>In RNY/pouch procedures, the duodenum and pyloric valve are bypassed and the intestines are connected to the newly created stomach pouch. Dumping happens when the stomach contents (unregulated by the pyloric valve which has been bypassed) dump directly from the new stomach pouch into the intestine. Eating sugars can cause dumping for many RNY/pouch patients. For this reason, they must be very careful of sugars. Some feel that this type of surgery with the dumping syndrome is the best option for people who eat a lot of sweets, since the dumping acts as a deterrent to eating sweets.</p>
<p>Since our pyloric valve and duodenum are left functioning as before, we DS patients don&#8217;t have dumping syndrome, nor a risk of staple line problems, clogging of the anastamosis, ulcers at the stoma, etc. (remember, we don&#8217;t have pouches or stomas). So, we don&#8217;t have the problems with &#8220;stretching&#8221; the pouch or getting something stuck in the stoma &#8212; because what we have is our real stomach, connected the same way it was before surgery to the duodenum.</p>
<p>Good luck in sorting all of this out!! Of course, I&#8217;m biased but I believe the Duodenal Switch is the best surgery for morbid obesity.</p>
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